“HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!” …And Make a Decision. This blog post was based on personal perspective and the thoughts surrounding personal growth. In the final analysis, each of us needs to discover where we want to go in our lives and how we plan to get there. However, getting along with other people on the way is super important as well. I think this concept of building bridges and finding ways to connect successfully with others is an important part of finding one’s way to success. I’ve been told that being a beast, and being self-centered to climb the success ladder is an important key, but I have realized personally that I’d rather find things in common and work together, as opposed to tearing everyone else down to make it. Sure, sometimes you must fight for your rights, and yes, sometimes the playing field may not be fair and equitable, but either way… we must work with each other anyway, so we might as well find ways to meet minds. Being a father is like that too! You can’t always have every- single-thing your way and sometimes you are compelled to apologize for fighting too hard to be RIGHT on your parental watch. I’m proud of that particular learning lesson, because it makes me feel like I gave my sons a fair deal. Also, they have probably learned a few things from me in that regard along the way. “Learn from the mistakes of others, you can’t live long enough to make them all yourself!” Happy Father’s Day, Men… we love you Bro’s!
HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!
Today’s Blog Post should be considered my first true post, my first true blog, my first newsletter, my first correspondence, my first encounter, my first communication, my first consequence… this is my beginning. Who’s writing this, I am. Who is thinking this, I am. Who does this matter most to… me. But then again… maybe even you, too!
And if it’s you… then good, it’s you. No matter how you slice it though, if you want to grow, you have to work. If you want to love, you must close your personal resistance and simply love. If you want to endure your trauma, you make up your mind to do it. If you want to find joy… you must at least try and smile more.
When you want desperately to believe, you must allow your negativity and opposite feelings less space in your moment to moment thinking.
If (I) want to make my decision, and if you want to make your decision, it’s different than if WE need to make our decision. We can lead, we can follow, and we can cooperate, but sometimes we need to get out of our own way.
If we make the decision to be happy, and we make this general determination, then our specific behavior will never change or grow. Everything we do, is based on the true and honest decisions we make… being happy in general is not possible. Being happy in the moment, however, can be practiced… and winning can be earned.
Once again, this HAPPY Thing! What is it?
Like now, today, this moment is… HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!
But what was happy about yesterday, and what will be happy about tomorrow. Being happy on cue, is often challenging for the Warrior spirit, for the hard worker, for the mountain climber, for the distance runner, for the problem solver, for the solution oriented and for the truth seeker.
When we realize and speak out loud that “Life is Hard” it sounds like it can be less possible to be happy or at peace.
But in my begging to differ, I offer this conclusion. Life is indeed hard, which is why finding joy is more recognizable when we see it. Living happily is possible after the race is won, because we survived and maybe even thrived in the hardest mile.
I think the absolute decision to enjoy, find harmony and hear the beautiful sound of life’s flute is to know the difference between the concept that life and its challenges can be difficult, and the knowledge and understanding that that’s OK! Then your old friend “happy” can come over for dinner and sit on down and you welcome him like you know him.
You don’t resist, you don’t deny your laughter, you don’t forget your work, but you come to and accept the terms of life’s deal. You find the ability to be true and honest and patient with yourself… and you will not have to look for and find your joy, because your joy will find you!
Yep… your joy will find you!
After you rest and turn on your light, your joy will find you in any darkness. Your joy will know you, and that happiness will be you!
Happy Father’s Day. Not Because it’s Sunday in June, but because you have learned to receive life’s gifts now. No matter how small, no matter how large, Right Now, this moment is a gift… perhaps it’s why it’s also called the present.
So, when you give to others from your very heart and soul, YOU MUST RECEIVE with that same heart. This crazy life door swings constantly both ways open and closed. Perhaps that’s why we are blessed with up and down, male and female, masculine and feminine, work and REST.
So, Make a Decision… ask the questions, so you can get the answers, and keep gloriously on your way, but don’t flounder, don’t waver, don’t dally, don’t doubt, and especially don’t quit.
The pursuit of happiness is not just a phrase. It could be considered a mindset. It could be considered a true direction… as long as hard work, discipline, overcoming challenge, falling down a full seven times and the conquest of standing up eight are included in your repertoire.
Peace is not the absence of conflict, difficulty or challenge… peace is you, recognizing YOU Inside… then loving him in return.
A word about men, and how we handle things. We seem (many of us) the most efficient at pursuing things, at achieving conquests and building. In our building however, I wonder if we are more accomplished at building walls, or are we more intent or accomplished at building bridges?
As one of these men, I have now determined that I have become much better at building bridges between myself and others, and I like it…
However, I have also learned that I have to take the bitter taste with the sweet, the confusion with the clarity, the difference with the same. And even though I work hard to build bridges now, and although I learned to swim in my human bridge-building, I have also learned that if you’re going to go swimming, you might as well get wet!
Grateful Happy Father’s Day… to us, the chosen Men. And, to Mother’s be the glory, through their bodies God will send.
But just a word to women, like I spoke earlier about challenge and truth, remember to see the men you love as builders, but certainly not error proof.
On behalf of my growth as a man, my woman’s growth as her own special entity, and the work that must be done… let’s be kind, and respectful, with truth and sensitivity, and work separately together as one.
HAPPY FATHER’S DAY BROTHERS…
The Best Is Yet to Come.
Peace
Written by: Roger B. Hamilton, personal perspective. 6-16-24.
